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Twelve Steps To Maximize Your Psychic Medium Reading Without Getting Scammed

by Bob Olson

Here are twelve important steps for maximizing the benefits of your readings with any psychic medium while avoiding getting scammed.

One: Keep an open mind.

The first thing you can do is keep an open mind. Skepticism is healthy, but be an open-minded skeptic. Closed-minded skeptics are merely debunkers. They have already made their conclusions and only look for evidence to back them up. Open-minded skeptics are open minded enough to recognize that they don't know everything and humble enough to know they can be wrong. So they investigate first, discover evidence second, and draw their conclusions last.

Two: Give the psychic medium enough time to do the job well.

I always recommend a one-hour reading rather than a half-hour reading. Just like any ability, it can take time for psychic mediums to warm up. The initial messages are often random and weak. But as the reading continues, the connection between spirit and medium grows stronger and the messages typically have more clarity and accuracy. Plus, the longer the reading, the more likely you'll hear from the person you're seeking. Sometimes a few people in spirit stop by to say hello before the person you most hope will show up comes through. If your reading is too brief, there might not be enough time to get to that person.

Three: Ask your loved ones inspirit to come through in the reading.

Once you have sat quietly for a few minutes before your reading, it can be helpful to talk or pray to your departed loved ones, inviting them to the reading. Tell them how grateful you'll be if they come for the reading and let them know what messages you'd most like to hear. It's not recommended that you make deals with your loved ones in spirit. Don't say, "If you can get the medium to say 
Jellystone Park, then I'll believe." That's too much pressure on both the medium and your loved ones in spirit. The medium will convey whatever important messages need to come through.

Four: Don't feed the medium.

Whenever I introduce a psychic medium to an audience before a medium demonstration, I always give the instruction, "Don't feed the medium." The audience always laughs, but I'm not just being funny.What I really mean is that you never want to feed the psychic medium information, because if you tell them something about your loved one inspirit, then that medium can't give you that information herself.

Five: Only answer questions with yes, no or maybe.

Psychic mediums should not be asking you any question beyond "Do you understand?" In which case, you can answer, "Yes, I understand," or "No, I don't understand," or "Maybe, I might understand but I need more information." Unfortunately, many mediums do ask questions because they haven't been trained properly or they've gotten lazy over the years. So if the psychic medium is asking a lot of questions, tell her that you'll get a lot more out of the reading if she doesn't ask you any questions other than "Do you understand?"


Beware of psychic mediums who insist on asking a lot of leading questions. Fake mediums can be quite convincing and good at deceiving people--especially those who are grieving. Scam artists and frauds will ask a lot of questions, fishing around for clues so they can improve their guessing ratio when delivering "messages" from beyond.

Six: Don't mix your spirits.

Never show up for a reading in person or by phone under the influence of alcohol or drugs. First, you're not going to be able to think quickly in order to process the messages you're getting from the psychic medium. The medium might be giving you a message about a distant relative who died years prior and you won't have the clarity of mind to sort through your memories to know if the message is accurate. Second, you're not going to remember half the messages that come through in order to benefit from the reading later. And third, you're much more likely to feed the medium when you are intoxicated. There have been many clients who have paid for a reading only to talk the medium's ear off instead of listening to the messages.

Seven: Take notes.

Even though many psychic mediums will audio record your reading these days, there are no guarantees that the recording will be successful.So always take notes with a pen and paper during your reading. You don't need to write down every word that they tell you. Just write down the key words and phrases they say, or quote an entire sentence every once in a while. It'll be enough to recall most of what was said later when you want to review the reading or share it with others.

Eight: Be honest with the psychic medium in your feedback.

For the most part, we human beings are a polite bunch, which is why many people who get readings say yes (suggesting that they understand the message) when they really should be saying no (that they have no idea what the message means). If you are honest with the medium and tell him that the message does not resonate with you, he'll be able to ask spirit for more information to make the message clearer. An honest "No, I don't understand" is not rude or mean. It's helpful guidance for the psychic medium.

On the other hand, be sensitive to the medium, too. Don't scream out "No way! That's wrong. You don't know what you're talking about." Even an abrupt, "Nope! Wrong!" is impolite and somewhat confronting. Being rude isn't going to help the medium or your reading. Instead, kindly and gently let the medium know that you don't understand the message-that it doesn't ring true and you need more information. This approach is more likely to relax the medium and lead to a better reading.

Nine: Announce your objections early.

There are several reasons why a psychic medium might have an off day. He might not be feeling well. He might have just gotten some bad news. He might have recently had an argument with his spouse or teenage son. After all, mediums are people, too. Thus, even the best mediums give readings that can be less than satisfactory.

If you're getting a one-hour reading and realize ten or fifteen minutes into the reading that eighty to ninety percent of their messages make no sense at all, it's your responsibility to tell them. Do not wait until half the reading-or worse, the entire reading is over before informing them. Psychic mediums with high ethics and integrity will stop the reading if it's not going well and offer to reschedule it for another day. But they won't know it's going poorly if you don't tell them. Too many clients let a bad reading continue without saying anything and then expect a refund when the reading is over.This isn't fair to the medium, and many won't give you a refund because of it.

Ten: Have realistic expectations.

You want to look for accurate evidence, not vague, general "messages," but you also want to be realistic about what is normal for a reading. Spirit communication should always begin with messages that identify the spirit who is communicating with the medium. He should be able to give you identifying evidence such as the name of the deceased, their age and circumstances of their passing, and/or physical appearance or personality characteristics. If the medium can't do this, he's either a fraud, inexperienced, or not very gifted.


At the same time, mediums can occasionally get names, but usually just first names. They will usually give you dates, but they might only get the month and not the day, and rarely do they get the year. They might also confuse a police uniform with a security uniform, or that someone was a nurse rather than a nurse practitioner. In order to have realistic expectations, keep in mind that these are the same misinterpretations that we might make ourselves in everyday life. If you recognize that the connection is more like a fuzzy radio station, you'll understand why the medium says the name John instead of Sean, or Liz instead of Riz. These are common mistakes that anyone could make.

Eleven: A promise to remove a curse for a fee is a red flag.

Never give money to a psychic medium who promises to remove a curse or spell for money. They might tell you that they can remove the curse or spell, or they might sell you a special crystal or some other object that will do it for you (usually for a lot of money). There's never any curse or spell, and this is the most common scam in the field. These criminals use fear to manipulate people--and sometimes rip them off for thousands of dollars. Don't fall for it.
Twelve: Don't reveal "personal ID" information to a medium.

If the psychic medium you've hired asks for your social security number, bank account number, passwords, driver's license, or any other financial or identity information, it's a strong sign that something is suspicious .Hang up if you're on the phone, or walk out, and report this person to your state attorney general's office. 
Conclusion: You affect the reading


In conclusion, keep in mind that your mindset, conduct and expectations can make the difference between a good reading and a great one. Mediumistic readings can bring incredible insight, comfort, clarity, and hope to your life, so it's important that you do what you can to maximize these benefits. Now that you know the twelve steps for getting the best reading, I hope your next reading is absolutely extraordinary. 

BobOlson is a former skeptic and a private investigator who has been researching evidence of life after death for the past 15 years. His expertise in this field led him to create BestPsychicMediums.com, BestPsychicDirectory.com,and AfterLifeTV.com. He also has a course for mediums at PsychicMediumWorkshop.com.His new book is Answers about the Afterlife: A PrivateInvestigator's 15-Year Research Unlocks the Mysteries of Life after Death (Building Bridges Press, 2014).

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